I’m listening to it on audible and I feel like sometimes the chapters get wonky compared to the print versions so I’m not listing chapters, sorry. I have the print version coming this week. I tried to order copies of this for my teenage nephews but there was only one available on the whole of Amazon it seems. This book is so freaking good and so much of it stands out to me.
I enjoyed Betty’s story of being at the bridal shower, introducing herself as their “over sexed grannie” and then it turning into an education for the gen-xers. I also appreciated Betty’s perspective and then shift of thinking her work (and the work of others) must have surely made this giant shift in the culture and then discovering that the women were almost as ignorant as the women in the 60s/70s. The shower was this intimate little peek into what was actually going on. I also appreciate Betty talking about how the 80s were this time of renewed constriction and repression of women, sexuality, and education. I actually think private events would be a good avenue for Bodysex. Like you could hire one or two facilitators to come and do a small private group instead of strippers.
Another part that stands out to me is all the cyclical hubub around vaginal versus clit orgasms. It’s totally nuts! Why are we still trying to cram everyone in to the male model of turn on and orgasm? And who is benefiting from things being this way? I feel like it would actually make more sense if everyone’s regular sex partners were either themselves or with someone with matching genitalia and then when we needed a procreation situation, we mixed the sex organs knowing it was for offspring. Honestly, people should get to fuck who they want but at least this scenario offers some pressure release of hetero normative P to V sex.
I love how Betty thought of the world, of partnerships, and pleasure and that she was able to share her perspectives and information so that we have the knowledge to learn and then also pass on.