Chapter 10 really stuck out for me because of the conversation between sexual labels and all of the back fighting that was taking place further separating women by the gay women and straight women split. I also believe that labels do more harm than good; that we can just be sexual beings. Sure we can have preferences, way that we usually “lean.” But if someone defines themselves as purely lesbian, what when they encounter a man that is more effeminate in his presentation that they find themselves attracted to and want to sexually explore with him. Does that mean that because he has a penis that she is abandoning her call to label herself as lesbian? Maybe out of guilt she wouldn’t explore that direction. Or if she saw herself as simply sexual, going with listening to her vulva and the sexual experiences she wants to have, it doesn’t matter what genitals the person has, she just wants to explore and experience with them and not wake up the next day with an existential crisis. This happened for me until I released the label – thinking I needed to justify that “I’m straight, I just like to play with girls sometimes but I don’t date girls.” A friend of mine told me what this label is, something like heteroflexbile hetero romantic or something like that. But I just see myself as sexual. Sometimes I play with boys, sometimes girls, sometimes myself, sometimes both, it doesn’t matter to me.