@chouse1011
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I get turned on by fantasizing group/circle masturbation with males and females for those that have achieved a certain masturbation comfort level. Still separate but together in the space, seeing each other and feeling the shared energy would be pretty awesome.
Open communication is key, whether it is your first intimate moment together or you’ve been committed for many years; but before that communication can begin, it’s important to spend time with yourself masturbating in order to learn what you like so you can relay that. Mutual masturbation is also constructive but in order for the outcome to be truly authentic without influence, I would always encourage the person to give themselves the time and space alone to experiment and learn.
I think it makes sense to use condoms unless you are in a fluid bonded relationship but otherwise, I think it’s a woman’s choice to decide the type of birth control is best for her.
I went on the pill once I became sexually active as a teen but it was really terrible for me that initial week after my cycle — it gave me morning sickness and like clockwork, something as simple as brushing my teeth would trigger me and every morning, I would throw up. Even with this, I stayed on it for years. Also used condoms and with my first husband, the pull out method.
Focus and attention—as long as my partner is paying attention to my response/feedback, I feel like a good time can always be had no matter the direction it takes us.
I don’t think I’ve ever tried a vibrator on my clit while giving a blowjob. Prior, I think I would have filed it under “Multitasking” but I can see the enticement now.
Typically by the time we’re engaged in intercourse, I have already had at least one if not two full body orgasms. By then, my internal/external clitoris is so engorged, I can orgasm again just by the bumping up against my protruding clit and using my PC muscles for suction fucking. Otherwise, for clit stimulation, I’ll do it manually or use the smallest/skinniest of the bullet vibrators.
I do also love where I am on top, initially grinding and fucking, but then when we’re ready to increase the speed I squat and use his hands as a brace. He absolutely loves this one so it’s a good reminder to bring it back.
As old fashioned as it sounds, I love missionary. There is something about the weight of my husband on top and the comfort that comes from it. Plus, just being face to face where we can watch each other in certain moments and on occasion make eye contact— when it’s fake and anyone is pretending, missionary is bullshit. But when it’s real, and you’re both really having this amazing experience, there’s something about the energy that flows and that occasional moment when you’re in your own world of pleasure but make eye contact. Often by then, I’ve had a crygasm so my face is as wet as my pussy, and I can see and feel his appreciation of it all on the expression in his face as he slightly smiles through his pants. In missionary, I will also hold the bottoms of my feet as high and close to my body as I can, so he can get in there deep— all the while I’m doing the suction fuck.
As I got older I gained confidence in asking for what I really wanted but it wasn’t until I was in my late 30’s and for about 6 months involved with a couple (male/female) – they were both excellent in communicating their individual and mutual wants and interests, both with each other and with me. I started to communicate more like them and carried that with me even after the threesome relationship had run its course.
My Preference Statements:
1. I love it when I have my vibrator on the side of my clit and you lightly touch me just around my vaginal opening (without going in).
2. My I’m closer to orgasm, I love it so much when you gently hold your finger completely still right under my clit – just the presence of your finger right there makes me cum so hard.
3. Please don’t pinch or hold onto/pull down on my nipples – it does nothing for me except cause a distraction. I do love it when you see I’m getting close to orgasm and just gently kiss my nipple closest to you.
Responses to Emma’s Preferences:
1- I am not ready for full on anal but I love it when you play with my anus, when you suck my anus and bite my ass. Can you do this and then go down on me. – Absolutely, I would love to.
2- I would love to explore having your dick at the entrance of my vigina, waiting there until I’m begging you to gently penetrate me while I use my vibe. – I will stay right outside until you say so (and looking forward to it).
3- I love it when you eat my pussy, can you also use your fingers inside me and gentle scoop upwards and towards my Venus mound, slowly and then almost stop and then build the momentum again. – Yes, just tell me when you’re ready for me to stop and stay still.
No doubt, in the initial time of high school sex when even though I masturbated and knew what I liked, I would not speak up because of fear of rejection. Because of this, there were times when penetration/intercourse was painful because I wasn’t warmed up and he was clueless.
I find both statements to be legitimate. And although Run the Fuck might mislead someone into believing they have to be the “top” or on top and in control of the rhythm and penetration, that’s not fully what I believe the statement is meant to be. By all means, a woman can run the fuck while being on top but the statement itself more leans to the idea of state your pleasure/express your choices. I can request my husband to watch me masturbate, and as I’m starting to build up orgasm energy, ask for his assistance with touching me where I want and in the way I prefer. Then after having a massive full body orgasm, I can beg him to get on top of me and fill me up, with his sexual energy and the weight of his body plus everything of mine so engorged that I can easily orgasm again. Then after he orgasms I can ask him to stay there inside of me while I continue to squeeze my PC muscle around him, feeling more pings of that energy until I’m ready to subside. And then after, when he gets up to roll over and lay next to me or get a towel or jump in the shower (whatever he wants to do), I can lay there in pure joy with zero guilt while I grab my vibrator to masturbate once more. That sounds like a pretty great fuck to run to me. (And as for the “fucking can be foreplay,” I think I might have addressed that one here, too).
Since we already do this quite frequently, I just foresee us enjoying it into our geriatric years. I do want to try Betty’s idea of doing it side by side and in front of a mirror together. Or perhaps, making a video of it.