Something that stood out to me was a quote from Chapter 1 page 3: “How we make love to ourselves is what we bring to partnersex.” I think that is a profound statement and observation on the importance of masturbation to develop your foundation of sexual pleasure. Someone who doesn’t masturbate at all isn’t going to know what feels good for them or how their body works. Someone who rushes through masturbation to orgasm as quickly as possible is going to replicate that in partnersex. It’s difficult to learn new things with a partner. It’s a lot better to be continuously working on your own technique so that when you do have partnersex you can bring more to the table.