Bodysex Education | Tosh Patterson | Activity https://education.bodysex.com/members/toshpatterson/activity/ Activity feed for Tosh Patterson. Tue, 14 Apr 2026 11:46:53 -0400 https://buddypress.org/?v= en 30 hourly 2 8ce5356cda2c3e431a67279dfaa13481 Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Something to Experience/Explore in the forum Module 12: Sexual Expression https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/something-to-experience-explore/#post-5785 Tue, 26 Sep 2023 06:37:18 -0400 I’d like to learn more about surrogacy and read a few more articles; maybe even watch the movie mentioned in the article. I’m interested in the healing power of sex energy and curious about what research is available about surrogacy.

]]> 0 8e6b1d7dd63861e36587cceac1acf866 Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Judgement Experience in the forum Module 12: Sexual Expression https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/judgement-experience/#post-5784 Tue, 26 Sep 2023 06:33:22 -0400 In past long-term relationships, I had sex outside our relationship. I did it to take care of sexual needs and desires my partner wasn’t providing. Despite my attempt to be sex-positive by prioritizing myself, I felt awful, harshly judged myself, and never told anyone. Thanks to Bodysex I can release any lingering shame and guilt; now I understand…Read more

]]> 0 439a50371a889f451023c5625e55528b Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Sex Work: Experience, Attitude, Emotion in the forum Module 12: Sexual Expression https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/sex-work-experience-attitude-emotion/#post-5783 Tue, 26 Sep 2023 06:22:26 -0400 I release the idea that sex workers are less than. Sex workers are human beings filling in the gaps in a sexually repressed world and until we’re all liberated…sex workers will be necessary fabric in society.

]]> 0 3268c01b5c091bc9615380d91e14f8f4 Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Sex Work: Something that Stood Out in the forum Module 12: Sexual Expression https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/sex-work-something-that-stood-out/#post-5782 Tue, 26 Sep 2023 06:19:16 -0400 I like when Betty said, “we are sex workers who educate women on how to orgasm”…yep, I can raise my hand and commit to that as a Bodysex leader. Considering myself a sex worker means I’m not looking down on other women who do different types of sex work; at the end of the day we’re all contributing positive sexual experiences for the men and…Read more

]]> 0 d76bdc3cfbe24d66840539008eb28200 Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Myth About Kink/BDSM in the forum Module 12: Sexual Expression https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/myth-about-kink-bdsm/#post-5781 Tue, 26 Sep 2023 05:47:20 -0400 From my work with the Erotic Blueprints, I’ve learned that people hold a tremendous amount of shame about their kink. It takes courage to both state and receive one’s kinky pleasure. Also, people feel like they’re the only one who likes something kinky but feel better about their kink once plugged into a community of like-minded individuals.

]]> 0 ef683a1952a64133199e4224682aa1c1 Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Kink/BDSM Activity in the forum Module 12: Sexual Expression https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/kink-bdsm-activity/#post-5780 Tue, 26 Sep 2023 05:43:09 -0400 Occasionally I like to be spanked, choked, hair pulled. Sometimes I’ll bite a lover’s arm during orgasm. In the future I’d like to experience rope bondage.

]]> 0 71b870981df801b8b362d500b410e0ac Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Share Your Experience with Tantra in the forum Module 12: Sexual Expression https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/share-your-experience-with-tantra/#post-5779 Tue, 26 Sep 2023 05:22:51 -0400 I’m certified in the Erotic Blueprints and the Energetic Blueprint is based on Tantra. In fact, the Energetic is part of my sexual turn-on. I like breathing together (either lying on top of each other), or blowing air into each other’s mouths while fingering or touching. Something about it syncs me up with my lover and although I’m in the physical…Read more

]]> 0 61f1d691a96dcc8770d582963b81e1b0 Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Barbara Carrellas and Tantra in the forum Module 12: Sexual Expression https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/barbara-carrellas-and-tantra/#post-5778 Tue, 26 Sep 2023 05:13:48 -0400 When Barbara spoke about being a wounded healer — that really resonated with me. It made me think of how, as a leader, I want to be perfect and bury the broken/messed up/fragile aspects of myself. Instead of hiding the wounded parts, Barbara invited me to share and leverage those parts to connect with the people who need my unique POV and…Read more

]]> 0 ba25caac1e7845434b26cf58c37e78cb Tosh Patterson replied to the topic End Slut Stigma in the forum Module 12: Sexual Expression https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/end-slut-stigma/#post-5777 Tue, 26 Sep 2023 04:24:31 -0400 To end slug stigma, encourage women:

1) to acknowledge themselves as sexual beings. Explore threesomes, vibrators, and any/every thing that feels pleasureable!

2) to share their sexual experiences (abortion, number of partners) in  sisterhood without shame

3) to love their body and stop covering their body/ judging themselves so harshly

 

]]> 0 edfcff4641691afa1f2b3135932d54b9 Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Slut Stigma and Repression in the forum Module 12: Sexual Expression https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/slut-stigma-and-repression/#post-5776 Tue, 26 Sep 2023 04:20:09 -0400 Slut stigma keeps women in a posture of guilt and shame for exploring sexuality.  Also, the slut stigma discourages women from breaking sexual rules so women try to live up to unrealistic norms in an effort to NOT be considered a slut. Common examples are: “a good Christian woman dresses modestly” or “a woman is wife material if she’s had sex…Read more

]]> 0 bb30e8d1847a457579203f3680299f5e Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Orgasms with a Group in the forum Module 12: Sexual Expression https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/orgasms-with-a-group/#post-5774 Tue, 26 Sep 2023 03:41:16 -0400 <p>In college, I had a threesome with two guys but no orgasm. I’ve experienced group orgasms with Bodysex and an orgy.  During Bodysex I felt safe because the group was exclusively women; it was a liberating experience being myself, making sounds, and receiving inspiration from what other women were doing.</p><p>Whereas the co-ed orgy was fun,…Read more

]]> 0 380432a598ff675a86f09036af5e4ab3 Tosh Patterson replied to the topic New Relationship Awareness in the forum Module 12: Sexual Expression https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/new-relationship-awareness/#post-5773 Tue, 26 Sep 2023 01:58:52 -0400 I had an A-HA in this lesson. So it’s common for couples to discuss giving each other “a hall pass”  for a celebrity crush, or for women to “gift” men a threesome for a milestone birthday; I think these exceptions allow monogamous couples to play outside the rigid lines of marriage/long-term commitments. A ‘hall pass’ or threesome is in fact…Read more

]]> 0 e9e363e5aff6f466c52f49119557a770 Tosh Patterson replied to the topic The Ethical Slut in the forum Module 12: Sexual Expression https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/the-ethical-slut/#post-5772 Mon, 25 Sep 2023 20:00:07 -0400 Something that stood out was when she said, “We’re not taught sexual abundance and that you can have/maintain more than one loving relationship”…so true! This statement caused me to think about how culture traps both men and women into a belief system that monogamy is the gold standard and the only way to have a relationship. By removing any…Read more

]]> 0 c614eec78726739391981bc461370c7c Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Human Sexuality Misconception/Myth in the forum Module 12: Sexual Expression https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/human-sexuality-misconception-myth/#post-5771 Mon, 25 Sep 2023 01:30:32 -0400 One social myth about human sexuality is that sex is a sacred act limited to a 1-1 relationship — ideally marriage. Dr. Ryan’s work highlights that “sharing sex is the best way of mitigating risk” because we’re all in life together. When we don’t share sex, it creates huge suffering and false expectations. Also that myth keeps sex about…Read more

]]> 0 dc29082ad3c343ed6a80b1eb6e0b0b1d Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Information from Leonard Shlain/Alphabet vs the Goddess in the forum Module 12: Sexual Expression https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/information-from-leonard-shlain-alphabet-vs-the-goddess/#post-5770 Mon, 25 Sep 2023 01:23:21 -0400 Something that stood out was his acknowledgment of the Black Madonna, as well as other Black Goddesses that were represented in the high Middle Ages until the Renaissance period. Then around the 1450s books became more widely available and people wanted to reach the New Testament. In response, clergy whitewashed the church with the removal of…Read more

]]> 0 6abe357950fcdd7f8cc48b3b3b265e2a Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Information from Chris Ryan/Sex at Dawn in the forum Module 12: Sexual Expression https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/information-from-chris-ryan-sex-at-dawn/#post-5769 Mon, 25 Sep 2023 01:13:53 -0400 Dr. Ryan’s perspective was so refreshing and I especially valued it because his work is science-based using anthropology, human sexual behavior, primate comparisons, etc; this level of research and analysis affirms what he’s saying. Several things caught my attention:

1) sexuality functioned as a bonding device, not primarily for…Read more

]]> 0 78e4ade0810100b615ae8fd2f5ac6295 Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Something Learned About Sexual Orientation in the forum Module 12: Sexual Expression https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/something-learned-about-sexual-orientation/#post-5768 Sun, 24 Sep 2023 16:24:18 -0400 I’ve learned that sexual orientation is fluid and can be heavily influenced by one’s phase of life. This is so liberating and allows me to be a sexual being, without labels, doing only what feels good moment to moment.

]]> 0 4a7149987f5a29717ef7addaef3c10b0 Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Your Sexual Orientation in the forum Module 12: Sexual Expression https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/your-sexual-orientation/#post-5767 Sun, 24 Sep 2023 16:22:16 -0400 At this time in my life, I’m attracted to and want to be in sexual relationship with a man. To date I haven’t been turned on by or attracted to a woman; my lesbian friends have encouraged me to consider being with a woman but it hasn’t felt right…yet. Right now I’m reflecting on the fact that I went to a sex party and only connected with men.…Read more

]]> 0 063baaf0906990c82e507eb35585ce73 Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Let's All Come Out! in the forum Module 12: Sexual Expression https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/lets-all-come-out/#post-5766 Sun, 24 Sep 2023 00:09:13 -0400 I understand sex style to mean what’s my favorite way to have my orgasm and/or how do I like having sex. Right now I LOVE self-pleasure orgasms; s<span style=”font-weight: 400;”>ometimes my orgasms are intense and full-bodied, other times long and subtle. I also enjoy partner sex inside a monogamous, heterosexual relationship. But either way…Read more

]]> 0 2951ea87c709e468a691bec9c80e3deb Tosh Patterson replied to the topic "Inside Betty Dodson" Article in the Forum in the forum Module 12: Sexual Expression https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/inside-betty-dodson-article-in-the-forum/#post-5765 Sun, 24 Sep 2023 00:00:13 -0400 I was struck by her phrase “pleasure-orientation” because it was a unique language then and now. Betty said “I’m teaching pleasure to help increase women’s sexuality”…I love that!

]]> 0 ca50cd3ca333aade00b14bfaf100d02f Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Chapter that Stands Out for You in the forum Orgasms for Two by Betty Dodson https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/chapter-that-stands-out-for-you-2/#post-5743 Fri, 22 Sep 2023 20:20:15 -0400 <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>There’s no one chapter I loved the most but I enjoyed the overall messages/quotes:</span>

<span style=”font-weight: 400;”>1) “My approach to teaching sex is to focus on the body and orgasms. I believe that experiencing consistent orgasms is essential in developing self-esteem and sustaining a loving r…Read more

]]> 0 379796a7799998b9bbfd447b9cbdbc84 Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Something that Stood Out in the forum Orgasms for Two by Betty Dodson https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/something-that-stood-out-2/#post-5741 Fri, 22 Sep 2023 20:13:33 -0400 <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>I read the audiobook, which had chapter numbers not titles, but I liked the story of Betty going to a bachelorette party. It was a power-packed chapter that summarized and demonstrated</span>

    <li style=”font-weight: 400;” aria-level=”1″><span style=”font-weight: 400;”>that even modern women, living and working in…

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]]> 0 283032de62649c1b81a47a1a1b7c545f Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Partner Sex: Something Learned in the forum Module 11: Partner Sex https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/partner-sex-something-learned/#post-5737 Fri, 22 Sep 2023 18:40:47 -0400 The concept of sharing orgasm instead of giving orgasm…I love this for partner sex! Just a slight shift of language acknowledges that each person is capable of independent orgasm but, during partner sex, the couple chooses to share orgasmic energy together. I think this is an important concept to share because it takes the pressure off either…Read more

]]> 0 f3089227a081da9580d4aac873b3c9d4 Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Birth Control: Attitude, Experience, Emotion in the forum Module 11: Partner Sex https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/birth-control-release-attitude-experience-emotion/#post-5736 Fri, 22 Sep 2023 18:30:45 -0400 I don’t have any lingering or negative emotions/experiences to release about birth control.

]]> 0 63212351050bd10415d06a717ca4e3f5 Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Preferred Birth Control in the forum Module 11: Partner Sex https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/preferred-birth-control/#post-5735 Fri, 22 Sep 2023 18:27:36 -0400 For birth control, I’ve used condoms, the pill, and the IUD. Of these, I most prefer the IUD because it’s set it and forget it method; I like that it’s non-hormonal like the pill but the downside is having something foreign in my body…people have hip and knee replacements so, hopefully, an IUD won’t cause more harm than those body procedures.

]]> 0 661e0d1aeaceb5c85130a19729d75c0c Tosh Patterson replied to the topic "Must Have" Sex Skill/Practice in the forum Module 11: Partner Sex https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/must-have-sex-skill-practice/#post-5734 Fri, 22 Sep 2023 17:40:41 -0400 Oral sex is a must-have skill for a lover! Why? Because, out of all the different ways I can orgasm, having an orgasm with oral sex feels best to me.

]]> 0 a1c7e153337e022e917e50ce6bc163c8 Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Something Learned about Partner Sex Skills in the forum Module 11: Partner Sex https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/something-learned-about-partner-sex-skills/#post-5733 Fri, 22 Sep 2023 17:03:35 -0400 I know both men and women have PC muscles but I never considered, until this lesson, how a man’s PC muscle impacts sex. Now I understand why both men and women should have a masturbation practice in order to strengthen the PC muscle. Applying this to partner sex will mean telling my current/future partners about basic sex education by explaining…Read more

]]> 0 d8315e9524ca9429e1febb2c785fc9d8 Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Vibrator with Partner Sex in the forum Module 11: Partner Sex https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/vibrator-with-partner-sex/#post-5731 Fri, 22 Sep 2023 16:01:48 -0400 During this lesson, it occurred to me that, in some positions, I could allow my partner to control the vibrator. Sharing would give me some sexual variety with pressure, speed, rhythm…simple shifts for more pleasure!

]]> 0 6a2a5ffc3d30b8a200a0f2af2a69793e Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Sex Position to Try in the forum Module 11: Partner Sex https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/sex-position-to-try/#post-5730 Fri, 22 Sep 2023 15:57:58 -0400 Sign me up for “Reverse Cowgirl with Eroscillator”…I forgot about reverse cowgirl but I’m ready to bring it back. Also a great position to give my large goddess belly space AND I control the vibrator; perfect!

]]> 0 634fee0da136b460d27f192f76c9002f Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Favorite Sex Position in the forum Module 11: Partner Sex https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/favorite-sex-position/#post-5729 Fri, 22 Sep 2023 15:55:32 -0400 When I’m REALLY turned on, I like doggy style (“from behind” as Betty calls it). The deeper penetration feels good. However, the one thing I struggle with is using a vibrator when in this position because I have a large goddess belly. Because of this module, I realized I can improve doggy style by:

(1) using a small vibrator like the…Read more

]]> 0 0024ce934a384f7ebca051032b7a142f Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Communication: Experience, Attitude, Emotion in the forum Module 11: Partner Sex https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/experience-attitude-emotion-communication/#post-5674 Mon, 18 Sep 2023 17:12:17 -0400 I’m releasing the idea that feedback is criticism. I’ve had partners who felt like my feedback and trying to show what I like was criticism, which in turn, made me believe the same. But now, without a doubt, I understand that I have not only a right but a responsibility to speak up for my preferences. If my feedback delivery isn’t great, I’ll tell…Read more

]]> 0 d1ac14e620b9688c1407b1a88663c1ac Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Sexual Preference Statements in the forum Module 11: Partner Sex https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/sexual-preference-statements/#post-5673 Mon, 18 Sep 2023 17:05:50 -0400 THREE STATEMENTS

  • To arouse me, tell me play-by-play what you plan to do to me during our sex play.
  • I really enjoy oral sex. And anal play once I’m relaxed, usually after at least one orgasm.
  • I only have one hard boundary – no water sports (don’t pee on me). I’m ok with messy sex but not intentionally urinating on me.

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]]> 0 4cda5225396fa26f833032a9f806b4e3 Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Communication Experience Share in the forum Module 11: Partner Sex https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/communication-experience-share/#post-5672 Mon, 18 Sep 2023 16:40:12 -0400 I was in a new relationship. I really enjoyed oral sex, with past lovers, but my new partner was missing the mark. So one night, DURING SEX, I tried to tell him faster, slower, softer…and, eventually, he blew up and said “Which is it…faster, slower, harder?” That killed the mood and ended our session. Back then I didn’t regularly masturbate,…Read more

]]> 0 632f16333566de66d8d56fb8df5874fd Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Run the Fuck or Foreplay for Masturbation in the forum Module 11: Partner Sex https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/run-the-fuck-or-foreplay-for-masturbation/#post-5653 Sat, 16 Sep 2023 23:30:01 -0400 Great lesson and enjoyed Betty’s journal entry. I’ve heard both of these concepts before, but in this module, what really emerged was letting go of the myth that sex is supposed to be one way. If I come with what I need, assert my sexual voice, and state my pleasure, then my happiness/satisfaction is inevitable.

]]> 0 6b3bfc31c74e5d93c149aec9a53be50f Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Partner Masturbation Plan in the forum Module 11: Partner Sex https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/partner-masturbation-plan/#post-5651 Sat, 16 Sep 2023 22:15:40 -0400 Maybe it’s time for us to have a conversation about what is sex for us moving forward. Would he be willing to experiment and explore some new ways of being sexual together…I’ll start there.

]]> 0 d1760a3a90c756371a142e23cee42345 Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Experience with Partner Masturbation in the forum Module 11: Partner Sex https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/experience-with-partner-masturbation/#post-5650 Sat, 16 Sep 2023 22:12:50 -0400 Well, kinda. I do masturbate in front of my husband to prime the pump, but we don’t have a shared masturbation practice. I believe my partner has sexual shame about masturbation and doesn’t view it as sex/worthwhile to share. My husband looks at me like I’m crazy because, on multiple occasions, I’ve suggested that he begin a self-pleasure practice…Read more

]]> 0 2f2aa792d85a2a583743dd68368c09c3 Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Release Experience, Attitude, Emotion in the forum Module 11: Partner Sex https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/release-experience-attitude-emotion-2/#post-5628 Sat, 16 Sep 2023 02:56:37 -0400 Letting go of shame I sometimes feel about priming my pump before partner sex; I’m giving myself permission to make more sound and let my partner really hear me being orgasmic before partner sex.

]]> 0 19b24d83c2825887253bae5ec7b147df Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Different Level of Desire Than Partner in the forum Module 11: Partner Sex https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/different-level-of-desire-than-partner/#post-5627 Sat, 16 Sep 2023 02:53:49 -0400 I can’t remember a time, in any of my relationships, when we didn’t have similar frequency/desire; I’ve been fortunate in this regard.

]]> 0 af64e7e9aec84dd927fac034da22013f Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Partner Sex Beliefs/Attitudes in the forum Module 11: Partner Sex https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/partner-sex-beliefs-attitudes/#post-5626 Sat, 16 Sep 2023 02:17:47 -0400 I didn’t realize, until now, that I hold a tremendous amount of slut shame that comes from religious conditioning; I went to religious highschool and college so the dogma is deeply rooted. In my 20s I kept a journal of partners and I was up to 40, which seemed high, but after hearing Betty and Carlin that’s nothing. Funny thing is just a few years…Read more

]]> 0 bdf77e1ea0b892c0a5ebbabfe6d4d4e5 Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Something Learned to Improve Partner Sex in the forum Module 11: Partner Sex https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/something-learned-to-improve-partner-sex/#post-5625 Sat, 16 Sep 2023 02:11:02 -0400 In this lesson, shared masturbation really landed for me. Yes, I heard it in previous modules, but now it’s resonating and I’m wondering how my partner sex would shift if we BOTH masturbated; usually, it’s just me masturbating but if we masturbated together would a new authenticity emerge?

]]> 0 b307b481cbf7cbe4eb52715df95986d9 Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Something You Learned in the forum Module 10: Fantasy https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/something-you-learned/#post-5078 Fri, 04 Aug 2023 23:44:07 -0400 I wasn’t excited at the start of the fantasy module, but once various formats (audio, film, art) were introduced I gained interest. These are resources to diversify my sex life and tools I can share with clients too.

Also, I listened to Dipsea creators explain why they create erotic stories and I loved what they said, “research shows 90% of women…Read more

]]> 0 74841185ec6279f356a721f4cd283429 Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Erotica and Fantasy Preferences in the forum Module 10: Fantasy https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/erotica-and-fantasy-preferences/#post-5077 Fri, 04 Aug 2023 23:36:49 -0400 This module exposed me to audio erotica, which I liked. I also enjoyed Erica Lust’s feminist erotica. Both formats (audio and film) worked for me because I like having a storyline that builds toward sex, not just outright sex. My favorite themes: teacher/student, sex in nature, and naughty like touching under the table so no one else knows what’s…Read more

]]> 0 82dfbb154b9d71baf388660514ba39ea Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Stories on DipseaStories.com in the forum Module 10: Fantasy https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/stories-on-dipseastories-com/#post-5076 Fri, 04 Aug 2023 23:28:03 -0400 I never heard of Dipsea and really appreciate what they’re doing. I accessed Dipsea on Spotify and enjoyed The Local series; at times it felt like an 80s romance novel, but then there were moments that seemed relatable and realistic. I especially liked the accents, as well as their sexual sounds. I liked Episode 8, the final episode in the series,…Read more

]]> 0 63ebfee0c5e867cdceb785d755a1f600 Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Films on XConfessions.com in the forum Module 10: Fantasy https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/films-on-xconfessions-com/#post-5075 Fri, 04 Aug 2023 22:18:33 -0400 I really enjoyed “Wash Me” because it offered a real-life storyline about sex and sickness. It’s based on a woman who just had breast cancer surgery. Because of the surgery, she can’t lift her arm, so her boyfriend bathes her. In the tenderness of him caring for her, she relaxes and once he sees this, he begins subtly caressing her vulva. This…Read more

]]> 0 5d7d98dca3b74edea7f78bef79cce54c Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Stories on Literotica.com in the forum Module 10: Fantasy https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/stories-on-literotica-com/#post-5070 Fri, 04 Aug 2023 00:38:46 -0400 I never heard of Literotica and it was an interesting exploration. I’m sensitive to language and two things that, as a Black woman from US, kinda bothered me:

(1) lots of slave/master references. For instance, some authors are named SlaveJen, or an author will write “I’ll be your slave or master “in reference to kink play. On one level I totally…Read more

]]> 0 c2b6a2156cd81d7bc437abb2d19fe5e6 Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Inspiration from Erotic Art in the forum Module 10: Fantasy https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/inspiration-from-erotic-art/#post-4662 Thu, 08 Jun 2023 02:26:27 -0400 I felt aroused by the last image of the women who is on her back, legs spread open, and several dicks are waiting in the corner. It was arousing because I instantly wanted to be her. I could feel myself being pleasured by several men. For me this image sparked fantasy but I want to bring it to life one day.

]]> 0 b7601a53f0569207b353c904e06d2b88 Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Creating Your Fantasy in the forum Module 10: Fantasy https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/creating-your-fantasy/#post-4661 Thu, 08 Jun 2023 02:10:21 -0400 Good job Laura! I like this a little more than the previous lesson. I think I’m getting hung up on the idea of having the fantasy during sex whereas this was just me being with a sexual/sensual thought but I’m not touching myself. I was able to follow Larua’s prompts and drop into a fantasy.

]]> 0 1348b0cf8420967ea460ef37e6e9dde1 Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Fantasy Experience, Attitude or Emotion in the forum Module 10: Fantasy https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/fantasy-experience-attitude-or-emotion/#post-4660 Thu, 08 Jun 2023 01:45:38 -0400 I really hate modern day porn. As a result of this lesson, I’m willing to accept that video porn is the same as reading or listening to erotica. I now see erotica as a way to engage the mind and connect with the body; many women need erotica to create arousal.

]]> 0 f939f740aeb50df523f7611e67092c7a Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Current Fantasy Practice in the forum Module 10: Fantasy https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/current-fantasy-practice/#post-4659 Thu, 08 Jun 2023 01:39:40 -0400 I struggled with this module and took some time to reflect on why. As a young girl, I was sexually abused and during those incidents, I would dissociate from my body and let my mind wander off. Fast forward to present day and  I intentionally focus on my body sensations and stay in the moment; this is a practice I’ve worked hard to establish…Read more

]]> 0 1fc8475c4487e25995d2af8648d46853 Tosh Patterson replied to the topic Masturbation Attitudes/Beliefs in the forum Module 9: Masturbation https://education.bodysex.com/forums/topic/masturbation-attitudes-beliefs/#post-4648 Wed, 07 Jun 2023 02:11:55 -0400 Sex never ends regardless of age. Wow, it was so inspiring to see Betty lubricating at 85 years old. After this module, I’m clear that sex can and will continue into my senior years thanks to masturbation…I don’t have to let go of the sexual part of myself. Instead, I can trust my body and simply enjoy the waves of orgasmic pleasure my body delivers.

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